Uncontrolled anger can make us feel very bad. If our anger, anger or frustration is negatively affecting our relationships with family, friends, co-workers or even strangers, it’s time to learn some anger management skills. We can not progress if we let negative thoughts predominate.
How to Control Anger
It has been proven that anger management techniques ( Anger Management ) help changes the way we express anger or rage. While a periodic anger can be healthy enough to let out negative emotions, but when it becomes the main way we express our discrepancies with the way we act or think of others, it can be dangerous. Both for human relations and for health, as a state of constant irritation or anger has a negative influence on the tension and the general health of a person.
Here are some tips to keep your anger under control.
Tips for Controlling Anger or Anger.
Take a “time”
Although it may seem like a cliché, counting to ten before reacting can really calm our temper, especially if it is a compulsive person who usually talks (or screams) before thinking.
Put a little distance in between
It is advisable to take a break from the person with whom we are angry until our frustrations dissipate a bit. This also allows us to plan better how to cover the issue that concerns us or that has caused us a displeasure.
Express clearly the reason for our anger
It is healthy to express frustration without confrontation. Not by shouting louder we are going to convince anyone that we are right. An intelligent and honest argument is usually much more effective than a monumental anger. It is much more convincing if problems are identified and solutions are proposed. And if we also convince the “culprit”, because there is much more likely that the problem does not arise again.
Do Some Exercise
Physical activity can offer a way out of the emotions, especially if we are about to explode. Going for a walk or running, swimming, lifting weights or just going up and down the stairs, several times will let the adrenaline out of anger without confrontations.
Thinking things through before saying anything
Otherwise, it is very likely that we will say something that we will regret later. It can be very useful to write what we mean to stick to the current issue or problem. When we are very angry, it is easy to disperse. And if we pass, it is very important to know how to ask for forgiveness.
Identify Solutions for the Situation
Instead of focusing on what made us explore, working together with the person who infuriated us to resolve the issue in question. This means that you should also be willing to listen to the other person’s version. Agreements or solutions can not be reached without first understanding (not sharing) the other’s argument.
Speak in the first person when describing the problem
This will help us avoid criticizing or blaming the other person, which could make him more angry or resentful, increasing tension. You should avoid having the other person feel accused or criticized so that they do not automatically become defensive. We can say, for example: “I feel bad because I had to do all the housework this week” instead of “You should have helped me” or “You are a bum and do not help anything”.
Do not hold a Grudge
If we can forgive the other person, we will both feel better. It is not realistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as we want. Sorrow is a very negative feeling. Once a discussion is resolved, it is important to forget what happened and not let the resentment or resentment continue inside, ready to leave for a later discussion. Try to think positive.
Use Humor to Release Tensions
Laughing can help dispel tension. However, do not use sarcasm; It will only hurt the other person’s feelings and make things worse. If a laugh seems impossible, try at least a smile.
To Practice Relaxation Techniques
A turn and De- stress relaxation skills can also help us control our genius when it appears. Practice deep breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene or repeat a word or phrase to calm down, such as “Quiet.” Other ways to relieve anger include listening to soothing music, doing meditation, cooking, journaling, and doing yoga.